Crying

When your babies cries it's OK. You don't need to lose you mind and get all upset and go over and shower the child with "love". I'm not saying don't pay any attention to it and ignore your children completely but once they learn that crying will get them attention you start a cycle that will waste time and cause grief.

The baby that doesn't get picked up every time he or she cries in the night will learn that everything is OK and learn to settle themselves thus in the long run do less crying.

Of course every kid is different, but all kids learn from their parent's reactions to the issues of the moment.

Have you ever seen a kid fall in the playground and be OK until he or she see's a distressed parent running toward them? It is then that they start to cry.

I think as a parent you want to do the best for your child, and sometimes the line becomes confused on these issues. How could you neglect you own flesh and blood? Well perhaps you are not neglecting but rather teaching that some things are no big deal.

These days i am in the parks with my twin girls (16 months)... it can be a bit dangerous so one of the policies i have tried to stick too is not to help the girls get to places that they can't get to on their own. The belief was that if they fall they should fall from not very high. Unfortunately the twins have displayed quite a climbing skill amazing myself and other parents. Was this because i never helped them? Possibly, but I am afraid we will never truly know the answer to that one, because remember all kids are different.

Anyway so i was at the park and Emily had gone up high and was eyeing the large slide, and Hailie was making her way up from the base. On the second step Hailie lost her focus and began to fall... she did hang on to the railing which helped break the fall and landed on her bum in the pea gravel. Some of the other parents gasped in horror and one of them even roared over and picked up Hailie and handed her up to me. Hailie never cried but she seemed happy to get a free ride up.